Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
This issue is a HUGE one.
This is a major issue for so many Muslims, especially when they are young.
I know many young ladies who plan on getting married very young. Some choose to get married young, but there are some who parents arrange marriages for them.
What EXACTLY does marriage mean in Islam to a muslimah?
A marriage in Islam is one of love, respect, committment, understanding, and etc.
I'm only 17, and an elder sister at the mesjid asked me if I was married. I told her "no", and she said she was surprised that someone haven't proposed to me. She thought I was atleast 19 though. I told her I was going to college first. I was interested about the weddings that Muslims had, so there was a conversation about this. She said she would find me a husband, jokily.
Problem 1: Why does it seem that marriage for a muslimah is the main priority for her?
Problem 2: What happen to being educated? Its not like the life expectancy rate is so low that we would have to have kids young and get married.
Problem 3: What happened to me finding my own husband?
Now, to continue on...A Muslimah must know that it is not her job to be a servant at home. She is to not be pushed around and told what to do as if she is stupid, and ignorant. If your husband wants a servant, then insha'Allah, thats a better decision.
Also, your parents cannot force you to marry someone. Yes, they can help you find a husband, or even arrange a marriage for you, but they cannot force you to marry that person. My muslima friend told me how her parents were pretty much forcing her to marry this cousin, but she didn't want to. So, I told her it was her right to choose who she wanted to marry. This is the law of ALLAH.
Also, wake up!!! Your only choice in life is not just marriage. If you want to travel the world, then do so. If you want to go to college, then do so. If you want to be with your family, then be so. Your only option isn't marriage.
I find nothing wrong with marriage, but when a muslimah feel that this is the only option, then I believe its a problem for the Ummah. The mother of a child is their first teacher, first and foremost. She must be educated. I know a few sisters who are home-schooled by their moms, and masha'allah, its a beautiful thing to see.
My post is intended to help guide muslimahs into understanding that life is about choices, and your choice to marry shouldn't be the only option out there for you.
If you're looking for marriage as being a way to be sustained, then thats your right, but you also have the right to be educated.
Know your deen. Know yourself. Know your husband. Be honest with yourself. Be honest with God.
Trust your Lord!
Insha'Allah, I will begin wearing niqab. I feel that niqab is a better form of haya, or modesty. I think its an excellent way to live according to the Salaf-the 3 best generations of Muslims. I feel confident when I wear niqab. I talk about niqab alot, and I understand that its a big goal for me right now after college, of course. I love niqab and its beauty. This is my choice, and its a positive one. Its one that will, insha'Allah, strengthen my iman. I am most definite about wearing niqab because I have worn it once outside the house. Its an amazing feeling. Its a feeling that I do not regret having. Its just this feeling that is unbelievable. Yes, wearing hijab can be hard, but insha'Allah, its worth it. I do it for Allah and ALLAH alone. No one or nothing will get in the way of me wearing this beautiful piece of cloth. Insha'Allah, I will tell more details about my first day when I begin wearing it on a regular basis, insha'Allah.
Wear niqab isn't easy, but its worth it if your intention is in the right place.
Friday, November 20, 2009
I was just in the neighborhood and I picked up some quotes from this blog: http://makkah.wordpress.com
I really liked the quotes I saw and its really good to look at if you're wanting some good Islamic guidance.
Monday, November 16, 2009
Dating in Islam? Is this haraam or halal? Are we allowed to go out with that guy we like and kiss and hug and be merry?
The answer to this question is "No".
The answer is "no" because we know that Allah has made this forbidden to us as Muslims.
As Muslims we are supposed to lower our gaze and guard our modesty. We leave our love and beauty for our spouses in marriage.
When we prepare for marriage, insha'allah, then we may look "potential" spouses and have a sit-down once or a few times with a chaperone, or wali. This "wali" makes sure that there is no intimacy, no touching, no haraam things being done, and etc.
During our sitdown(s), we may ask questions about this person before we actually marry them.
This is the halal way of doing things.
Going out on friday nights to party and to go clubbing with our boyfriends isn't of Islam. A Muslim is supposed to be modest in what they do and leave all intimacy and closeness between the opposite sex for marriage.
Why give yourself away when you have all of your marriage to do so?
Islam guards us from lusts, from unwanted pregnancies that may slip when we aren't married, from heartache, and from making decisions when we aren't mature to make them.
Insha'allah, I hope that this is helpful for the muslima who may have fallen out of touch with the rules of Dating in Islam.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Many people may believe that salaat is really dull and repetitive, but it isn't.
I love salaat because it makes me think to stop.
Being a Muslim and having to pray salaat 5x a day is great...alhumdulilah.
Sometimes school student and people who work believe that praying at their school or work site is something they would never imagine doing.
I was like that once, but its our duty to pray when its time
ON the Day of Judgment we are going to be judge 1st on our salats...make your SALAAT~~
Just pray and get it over with..don't doubt yourself..just do it.
Praying salaat is important.
I remember going to an Eid party and these two girls laughed at the fact that I said I pray 5x a day, and they had said...i sometimes do it and laughed. I didn't understand how that was funny. I take salaat very seriously. I make sure I make my salaat up if I miss it, but its never intentionally.
I see born-muslims doing this. I don't understand. You know since forever that praying is central to our faith.
I know that as a Muslim you have to be persistent in your duties, and to never allow someone to tell you that doing your duties is strange, or not wajib, mandatory!!!
Monday, November 2, 2009
Haya, or modesty in Islam is a huge, huge topic for me. I believe its so important that we sometimes over look it. Haya means modesty in arabic. Prophet Muhammad said, "Haya is half of faith"...Without haya, then you're inclined to do whatever you like.
I am a big believer in modesty because it prevents you from committing many sins that you may otherwise do.
When you think of haya, you may think about the hijab, or niqab. Actually, I believe haya goes further than just his. Haya means being conscious of what you do and what you say. When you're out and about...you should be mindful of your speech and where you place your feet-metaphorically. Its the truth. Sometimes we're not mindful of what we do and how we do it.
This is just a huge subject, but insha'allah, I will break it down further.
Haya is the difference between you and the Jahiliya(time of ignorance).
The Jahiliya was a time in which haya, or modesty wasn't observed, but Allah brought us out of that and gave us the Qur'an and the Sunnah to guide us.
The Pagan Arabs committed the most lude acts, but Allah tell us in the Kitab to lower our gaze and to guard our modesty. When we're told that, we're told that for a reason. We're told to restrain ourselves from evil acts and to be persistent in following the haqq-the Truth.
In the Jahiliya, we forget about the Haqq, and we do things we shouldn't do because we forget about haya....
In the Qur'an and Sunnah, we're given Strict codes of ethics to abide by so we don't fall back into the Jahiliya!!
Insha'allah, I hope you remember to be modest, and mindful of what you say and do.
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Islam is a beautiful way of life and I wouldn't change it. In my job as a dai'yee, or a Muslima, I believe its wajib to educate others on Islam.
What are the 5 Pillars of this Din?
1. Declare the Shahada "This is no god, but Allah and Muhammad is his slave and messenger"
2. To Pray 5 times a day
3. To fast during Ramadan
4. To Give Charity or Zakat
5. To take Hajj, or the pilgrimage to Mekkah if you can financially!
Through these 5 essential pillars of Islam we will gain Iman, or faith in our Lord. We will begin to learn more and more about our Din. When we become further along in our din, our iman strengthens and we begin having Qur'an on our tongues. We begin to become the ghuraba-the stranger. We began to understand ourselves and our Lord.
Muslimas, it is vital and incumbent upon you to be educated in your din, or your faith and be educated in worldly affairs. Education can allow you to reach your goals and ambitions.
A sister once told me, "Its important for you to know your din, so someone doesn't pull the wool over your eyes!".
This is so important for young Muslimas to know especially. You must read your Qur'an and the Sunnah as if its the last thing you'll ever read. Have the Qur'an on your tongue and let it guide you throughout your life.
I see many sisters wanting to marry young and not know their Din. YOU MUST NOT get into a marriage if you don't know your din. How do you know the Brother will give you your rights if you don't know them?
Knowing our din is important. Insha'allah, I will begin telling you the rights of Muslim women in ISLAM.
Muslim Women are Given These:
- Right to Inherit property
- Right to choose her spouse
- Right to keep her name in marriage
- Right to be financially stable
- Right to Divorce
- Right to contract
- Right to vote and speak her mind
- Right to sexual satisfaction
- Right to drive- Prophet Muhamamd(peace be upon him) told me to teach women to ride camels.
- Right to birth a female child
- Right to travel
- Right to keep her own money
- Right from defamation
- Right to a dowry
- Right to be treated as an equal to a man
- Right to work
- Right to Education
Insha'allah, I wish that any thing I mispoke about will be corrected by Allah. Insha'allah, sisters you need to read more about these rights and to memorize them and to understand them.
Masha'allah, there are many Muslimas that have written on these rights and have giving daa'wah about these rights.
Salam wa alaikum,
The Revolutionary Feminist Muslima