Dating in Islam

Assalamu Alaikum,

Dating in Islam? Is this haraam or halal? Are we allowed to go out with that guy we like and kiss and hug and be merry?

The answer to this question is "No".

The answer is "no" because we know that Allah has made this forbidden to us as Muslims.

As Muslims we are supposed to lower our gaze and guard our modesty. We leave our love and beauty for our spouses in marriage.

When we prepare for marriage, insha'allah, then we may look "potential" spouses and have a sit-down once or a few times with a chaperone, or wali. This "wali" makes sure that there is no intimacy, no touching, no haraam things being done, and etc.

During our sitdown(s), we may ask questions about this person before we actually marry them.

This is the halal way of doing things.

Going out on friday nights to party and to go clubbing with our boyfriends isn't of Islam. A Muslim is supposed to be modest in what they do and leave all intimacy and closeness between the opposite sex for marriage.

Why give yourself away when you have all of your marriage to do so?

Islam guards us from lusts, from unwanted pregnancies that may slip when we aren't married, from heartache, and from making decisions when we aren't mature to make them.

Insha'allah, I hope that this is helpful for the muslima who may have fallen out of touch with the rules of Dating in Islam.