Hot Topic: Marriage

Assalamu Alaikum,

On Facebook, I created a group that discuss various topics for sisters.

Marriage is a HOT TOPIC.

Many sisters speak on many problems that they may have:

1. Not receiving their rights from husbands
2. Being abused
3. Husband isn't taking care of them and their family
4. Husband isn't wanting to practice Islam
5. and etc.

We must learn our deen so we can know what marriages look like.
Its important that we know our partners before marrying them.

Islam have laid out some conditions in protecting these sort of situations.

Salam, what are your thoughts?

"Prophet's Muhammad Birthday" PROBLEM

Assalamu Alaikum,

I'm sorry, but this has to be discussed.

The Prophet MuhammadSAW did not celebrate his birthdays. I'm sorry, its true. None of the Qur'an or Sunnah speaks about this.

Its good that we do not go along with this because we then turn into the Christians. We begin celebrating Isa(alayhim salaams)birth, known as Christmas to the Christians.

Then we may fall into shirk.

Some deviant groups go off and have festivals for the Prophet'S bday and all of that.
If you want to learn more about the ProphetSAW then, insha'ALLAH, then do so.

There is nothing wrong with learning more about him. Alhumdulilah.

We just do not celebrate his bday. Its not Islamic, nor is it part of the Qur'an and Sunnah.

Salaam

Thank Sis: I just Got An Email Recently!

Assalamu Alaikum,

Sister,

I do not know how to perform a janazah fully. I know that only individuals of the same sex may carry a Muslim body to the burial. We wrap the body in white or if they took hajj then they are wrapped in their hajj clothing. If a muslim died in war then we leave them in their clothing. We do not have tombstones or put flowers on the grave of the dead. This is all I really know about janazah. I just recieved an email from Essenceofblack.com talking about a sister not knowing about janazah and her loved one didn't have a muslim funeral. This website have janazah kits. I will have to tell my family soon that I need a janazah kit. We do not get buried in a Christian/Jewish funeral graveyard.

Please, tell me more sister. I'm not sure about everything. Very good comment sis. Very good. This knowledge would be considered fard.

Thank you so much. You make me want to find out more. We neverknow when we will die, suban'ALLAh.

Salaam

Moment of Silence: Janazah!

Assalamu Alaikum,

Today, I saw a long line for a funeral procession. Subhan'ALLAH.
It really made me think alot.
Our dear Prophet Muhammad SAW said it was good for us to visit graves so it will remind us of the afterlife.

Insha'ALLAH, I hope everyone will just stop to think about their lives and understand that our lives are so short.

I really can't stress that enough.

I know we are all very busy people and we have lives, but its true that we should just take things slowly and think about our lives more.

I've never been to a Muslim funeral(Janazah), but I can tell you that its a sad thing or a beautiful thing depending on the person, but WALLAHI we truly can't judge a person because we aren't AllahSWT and we do not know their personal lives.

Its best to just make du'a and pray for ourselves.

One day we will be pulling out a janazah kit and using it for a loved one or someone will be pulling it out for us, insha'ALLAH.

Its a scary thing, but its the truth.

We don't think about things like this alot, but its something we must prepare for, insha'ALLAH.

Peace for now!

A Morning Special: Something New: Qur'an on the Mind

Assalamu Alaikum,

I haven't heard the recitation of the Qur'an in a long time. I only hear it in my salaats, but subhan'ALLAH, I don't hear it besides that. I had a Qur'an on a cd-only a quarter of it, but insha'ALLAH, I will buy some cds. I love listening to it. It do touch my heart. It puts such a spark in my day and I feel so much better.

This is an all time favorite of mines. This is a child recitor of qur'an. Hope you Enjoy.



I really do wish to one day travel to a country that have qur'an being recited from radios, qur'ans being sold in bazaars, athans being heard when you're sleeping, assalamu alaikum every place you go, and etc.

That will be something very special for me to see, insha'ALLAH...I will travel to a Muslim or Islamic Country. I'm not sure which one yet. I may take my family with me. I know I have to take a mahram,insha'ALLAH!

Any thoughts?

What Does It Mean To Be A Muslima?

Assalamu Alaikum,

I must say that being a Muslima is something special. Many people don't know this, but it is.

When I hear people talk about "feminism" its something I don't really need to worry about. I took a women's studies course last semester and it opened my eyes to women globally. Thats why part of my blog is called "feminist muslima". Its like a contradiction. We, as Muslimas, have had rights granted to us before any WESTERN CIVILIZATION...alhumdulilah.

An Islamic teacher told me that we, as Muslimas, do not need feminism because Islam already liberated us. This is so true.

Alright, as a Muslima, we have the hijab or niqab. Hijab and niqab is something that allows a woman's beauty to be kept sacred and to herself. Its something that allows a woman to keep what is hers to herself. I don't need to look like a magazine models or women on ads.

I am a Muslima. I am a Muslima. I am a Muslim Woman that is happy to be of Islam.

Islam liberated me. Islam freed me. Islam showed me the Truth in being female.

A woman in Islam is a queen. She truly is. She do not have to work. She is an individual with rights. She is her own.

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POST OF THE NIGHT: BE STRONG IN HIJAB

Assalamu Alaikum,

I noticed some new faces on this blogging site of mine, and that is something I welcome...masha'ALLAH.

Alright, I know many sisters are having a serious problem with keeping on hijab, or niqab and trying to please the people around them.

This is a topic that I believe is pretty personal and very personal to others also.

There are sisters I know that do not wear hijab because they are scared, don't feel like they are ready, mother don't wear it, or because they don't know about it.

This gives no reason for why a sister doesn't put hijab on. Hijab is an obligation, so put it on.

Insha'ALLAh, I wish the best for these sisters, but moving on.

The sisters who have decided to put on hijab should understand that its not going to be easy, nor simple.

We have to face this jihad that ALLAHSWT have put upon us. There was a sheikh that sent out a fatwa to sisters a way back with the September 11th tragedy, and he said that it was okay if sisters took off their hijabs out of security. Subhan'ALLAH.

I know a sister personally who do not wear hijab anymore, but did. She wants to soon, insha'ALLAh.

I wake up everyday around Non-Muslims or even Muslims who do not like the wearing of hijab, but its alright because its something I wear for the Lord. Alhumdulilah!!

You have to. You can't put people first. You can't.

You wear your islamic clothing: Your skirts, baggy jeans, jilbabs, abayas, dishdashes, or etc and you wear it everyday.

Its no one elses business why you wear it. You can tell them, but they don't tell you why they wear that they wear.

It should be an obligation upon us Muslimas to tell people why we wear what we wear. If they ask it then insha'ALLAH, its our choice to answer.

Insha'ALLAh, we wish everyone well.

Sometimes I get crazy comments from people such as:

1 "Why do you wear crazy clothing(abayas)?"
2 "Why don't you wear jeans" I do, but not often...i'm always wrapped up
3 "Why do you wear that on your head"
4 " Do you get hot"
5 "Are you forced to wear that"
6 " What happen if you take it off"

Its something we hijaabis and niqaabis may get. Its alright because we feel good in what we wear. We're covered and alhumdulilah, there is nothing wrong with that.

Wa alaikum!!

POST OF THE DAY: DONT POST STUFF

Assalamu Alaikum,

A sister on Facebook told me something very sad.

We should not act as if we are teachers of knowledge if we didn't go to school to get a degree in Islam or Hadith.

End of story.

People go around posting up false information about Islam and especially hadis.

Muslims all over the world need to know that what they read off of a blog may not be ENTIRELY true.

Salam!

BIRTHDAY CELEBRATION

Assalamu Alaikum,

Last night was the Superbowl for the USA. The superbowl is a huge time for two great teams to go against each other in Football.

Also, while this is occuring...I had a Superbowl party. Actually, my mom had a superbowl party.

My birthday was yesterday also. I don't celebrate my bday because I know that it isn't of ISLAM. My parents know this and its not a big deal to me. I haven't celebrated my bday in a long time. Its been a long time. Becfore I came into islam I hadn't celebrated it because it was something younger kids would do.

Insha'ALLAH, I hoped that nothing would come up. My aunt bought cupcakes for my bday and everyone sang to me. Insha'ALLAH, It was something I didn't like, but I enjoyed the fact that everyone was happy for me. It was something that was profitable also. I recieved cash. Insha'ALLAh, its something nice.

Its hard when your family is into doing things a certain way, but insha'ALLAH, things will get better.

Facebook: Avoiding the Fitna

Assalamu Alaikum wa Warahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Today, I recieved an interesting message for a Muslim guy. I believe he may have me confused with another Muslima. He commented on me not having many or hardly any males on my friends' list. He added that this was a good thing..... this was a nice message, but I didn't know him nor did I add him to my friends' list. He did invite me to become friends with me earlier on, but I didn't say yes.

One thing that I try to do when I am on facebook is to AVOID THE FITNA.

When I say avoid the fitna, I mean I don't add men to my lists because I am not a scholar, imam, or a sheikh, thus it would not be smart of me to add men to my list if I do not plan on teaching.

Secondly, I do not have time to get IM's or messages or posts that is ridiculous.

Thirdly, I will delete females(all females on my list plus my brother) and I don't have a problem with that if the fitna arises.

I really do not have time for the fitna. Its something I learned from another sister. We don't have time to allow fitna into our lives.

Fitna is something so dangerous that I just try to avoid it....I have an interesting post up next.